| 己所欲言，而他所不欲聞者，言之無效。 | You cannot effect your target if you say what you want to say but he does not want to hear. |
| 他所欲聞，而己所不欲言者，言之無益。 | You cannot benefit your target if you say what he wants to hear but you do not want to say. |
| 必也以非己所不欲言，且非他所不欲聞者為所言，以鎖定其因果路徑。 | If you try to lock the causal route of his behavior, you should say what is acceptable both to you and him. |
